EYE OPENING FOR YOUNG MINISTERS

The second worst thing that can happen to any man in this world after HELL FIRE,is a bad marriage[a bad wife]Let me emphasis again that this is specifically for ministers,especially  the young ones[upcoming ministers] Anybody can marry any woman at all if they so please BUT not you a minister. This is very important.

You can't afford to marry by EMOTIONS. You can't afford as a minister of the Gospel to choose a woman with only your HEART, without your HEAD.

Remember that the woman you choose as your wife is more than a wife BUT a partner and co-worker in the ministry directly or indirectly. You can't afford to marry just anyone in skirts.

No matter how much she likes you, if she doesn't posses qualities that are compatible for the work you are doing as a minister of the Gospel.

Don't worry your head. Not every woman IS a ministry material. Every woman CAN BE But not all are. Some woman will best fit footballers- let them go. Some may best fit, bankers- let them go. There  are some that fit into ministry. Find them.!

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO WILL GIVE YOU TIME FOR YOURSELF. Ministry work is no joke. You will need a lot of time for yourself, studying, meditating, planing and etc. You cant afford to have around you a wife who will be competing with your personal times. You won't reach far with such a woman. As much as you will make time for her, find one who will allow you time for yourself.

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO IS GOOD AT THINKING AHEAD AND ACT FAST. In most situations things may skip you. You need a woman who will think fast and act fast. Not one that will side on the fence and be speaking from the back of her nose! Someone who you don't always have to tell what to do- she knows what to do in most given situations. This will help you in golden ways.

* CHOOSE Av WOMAN WHO IS NOT LAZY. Lazy people don't excel in ministry. Lazy to read, Lazy to Learn, Lazy to go for meetings, Lazy To Pray- always giving petty excuses here and there. You may tolerate it initially but with time, who you are won't allow you to take it. Find yourself a lady that is mostly active to do anything that will push the ministry forward.

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO HAS TRAINED HERSELF AS A GIVER. Dear minister, You can't afford a stingy wife. Ministry thrives on giving. You yourself must be a crazy giver then backed by a wife who is like that. With such a woman things will move fast for you. If her money can't go into the work her heart won't be there either.

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO IS GOOD AT CALMING THINGS DOWN. This is very important for ministry. You will be dealing with different people from different backgrounds with different attributes. Your wife must be the "It's Okay" type. When you make the mistake of getting angry with the flock, she should be good hearted mediator. Not one that will add salt to the sore. Such women scatter the flock

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO CAN SACRIFICE. Sacrifice is a core part of ministry. You are serving people. It requires sacrifice. Your wife must be a master at that- so much so that even when you are "tired" she sparks you on. Ignore the "Me, My Husband, My Children" kinda of women. They won't help you go far. There are ladies who have people at heart. Get yourself one of those. Willingness to sacrifice time, food, Comfort etc is vital

* CHOOSE A LADY WHO IS TEACHABLE. Life is school of learning. You are the carrier of the vision. No matter who she is, if she is teachable She can become anything you want her to be. This is one key thing to look out for as a minister when choosing a lady for wife. A lady is unwilling to learn and adjust for the sake of the ministry work is off the list. Leave such women for the footballers.

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO IS PURELY GRACE CENTRED. I am talking about an excited "Grace Talker" not one who merely knows terms and jargons and scriptures,no! A woman who lives, breathes, thinks and acts with grace mentality. Remember, you won't go far with a legalistic woman. Faultfinding, Nagging, Unsexy and Critical. You will waste your time staying with this thing under the same roof. Don't take chances

* CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO IS WELL ORIENTED WHEN IT COMES TO SEX. You can't separate a good sex life from a good ministry. You will need good and constant romance and sex. No hypocrisies! Be sure that lady you are choosing has good sense for such and holds no myths. She might not necessarily have practised it BUT should be well informed through research how the whole thing goes. Remember, a joyful and active sex life with your wife will boost your performance in the ministry work.

Note:
A. There are quality ladies out there who are excellent materials for ministry. Take time and observe closely. With your leadership role, many ladies will admire you but don't let that lead you to choose. Admiration is not the basis for choosing a life as minister.

B. Don't be carried away by false humility some ladies exhibit. Because you're the leader or minister they may fake personalities just to impress you. Don't get carried away! Look closely. Observe how they handle average people. How they handle petty issues. This will help you decide.

Upcoming Ministers Of The Gospel please take hide.